What to Say to Kids When Nothing Seems to Work: New book for parents endorsed by Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Sue Johnson, etc
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: Contact Dr. Adele Lafrance / adele@dradele.lafrance.com
What to Say to Kids When Nothing Seems to Work: A Practical Guide for Parents and Caregivers
Routledge | Publishing Date: March 10, 2020
If you’ve ever been told: “I don’t want to,” “I’m not talking to you,” and “You love my sister more,” Drs. Adele Lafrance & Ashley Miller have the fresh take you need when nothing seems to work!
Together, clinical psychologist, Dr. Adele Lafrance and child and adolescent psychiatrist, Dr. Ashley Miller have more than 30 years of experience working with children and their families. Their new book, What to Say to Kids When Nothing Seems to Work, offers hope, compassion, and tried-and-true tips that, when put into practice, may seem like a miracle.
Bringing a little humour into the chaos of life with kids, parents will find real-life examples that help them understand their kids’ behaviour and emotions. Among all the parenting books available, Drs. Lafrance and Miller set themselves apart by focusing on how parents can make educated guesses about what their children are feeling, validating those feelings (even to the point of leaning in to them), and providing concrete support strategies to help manage current and future situations in a way that leaves everyone feeling better.
Amazon link:https://www.amazon.com/What-Kids-When-Nothing-Seems/dp/113834463X/ref=sr_1_2?crid=1XZE4G4SLCZNW&keywords=what+to+say+to+kids&qid=1581951748&sprefix=what+to+say%2Caps%2C202&sr=8-2
Endorsed by top leaders in the field:
"What To Say To Kids When Nothing Seems To Work is exactly the guide that frazzled and over-extended parents need for handling tough moments with kids. This book allows us to analyze our own behaviour and to see things from a kid's perspective, avoiding the knee-jerk response all of us parents later regret. Today’s parents are often stretched very thin and running on empty, and this book can be a great help." - John Gottman, author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.
"This is a book every parent should read! It is a down-to-earth, clear, and creative guide for those moments when all parents feel
defeated and demoralized. And it's fun to read. It will help you reach for your best parenting self in difficult moments and keep that loving bond with your child growing." - Dr Sue Johnson, researcher, professor and bestselling author of Hold Me Tight:
Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.
Ask Drs. Lafrance & Miller...
1) Why reassurance doesn't work when your child is sad or worried…
2) How to decrease resistance and increase cooperation in tweens and teens (using Jedi mind tricks)
3) "You love my sister more!": How to diffuse sibling spats (and without reassurance - it doesn't work anyway - see point 1)
4) "I'm not talking to you..." : How to open the vault with a tween or teen who shuts you out
5) "This is the best!": The importance of celebrating kids' joy in a world that encourages you to keep it small
6) "You're too soft! and You're too hard!" Managing co-parenting disagreements
7) "The Do-Over": Why "imperfect" parenting is not only good enough but great for strengthening bonds
8) Reconsider the role of the child therapist...The importance of involving parents in youth mental health as "co-therapists" (even if they are struggling themselves)
9) Helicopter? Snowplow? Laissez-faire? Parents need fewer labels and more support to decrease self-blame and increase access to their instincts
About Dr. Adele Lafrance
Adele Lafrance, PhD, is an internationally recognized clinical psychologist, research scientist, and co-developer of Emotion-Focused Family Therapy. She offers workshops for the general public and mental health agencies worldwide. A frequent keynote speaker at professional conferences, Dr. Lafrance has published extensively in the field of emotion and health, including a clinical manual to support families published by the American Psychological Association. In addition to her work as a psychologist and academic, Dr. Lafrance is passionate about helping parents to support their kids in a way that is informed by the latest developments in neuroscience. The knowledge and tips in her book, What to Say to Kids When Nothing Seems to Work, also reflect the unique joys and challenges Adele has experienced firsthand as a step-parent.
About Dr. Ashley Miller
Ashley Miller, MD is a child and adolescent psychiatrist, family therapist and award-winning educator. She is a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at the University of British Columbia where she serves as co- director of family therapy training. She loves working with children, teens and families daily, helping them to reconnect to their own strengths and to each other. Dr. Miller is a respected writer, speaker and media expert featured regularly at professional conferences, on air, and in publications such as Today’s Parent. She wrote What to Say to Kids When Nothing Seems to Work to bring together some of the most helpful and practical science-based strategies she has encountered over her 15 years as both a parent and a child psychiatrist. She lives in Vancouver, BC with her husband and two child