Conscious Reconnection : How to co-create the world you wish to live in beyond lockdown
As we begin to get out of lockdown, some of us might feel fear, some might feel excited. Some of us might crave our old lives back, and some might want to press the reset button, reinvent ourselves and co-create a more authentic world with a sense of purpose, passion and personal potency. Here's how:
1. Be true to yourself. Some people believe that the Covid-19 virus is a hoax. Others have suffered illness and sadly lost loved ones. Either way, respect others and be true to your own choices. Protect yourself in whatever ways are true to you, then respectfully extend yourself to those around you. I've seen far too many people collude with naysayers, compromising their boundaries and the wellbeing of their loved ones, only to feel fear and remorse later on.
2. Take your time with touch. Many people have been starved of physical touch. Some might fear it, some might ache for it, some might sexualise it, many might not know how to navigate it. So how about discussing it before you reconnect with people? Should you find yourself unexpectedly before a familiar face, take a slow deep breath, make gentle eye contact, respect the metre, negotiate elbows, handshakes and hugs without frantically fumbling for the fix.
3. Reinvent yourself. Traditionally, social groups don't allow change unless you've been in an accident, ailing, abroad, or absent for whatever reason - like lockdown! So be clear about who you now are, how you wish to be treated, how to hold your boundaries and consciously reconnect beyond your old persona. Come from that more authentic space inside of you to create the space in front of you for the world to meet you as you wish. Follow your will and live your truth.
4. Accept the chaos. Being attached to old pictures and trying to fix what's out of control will cause stressful days and sleepless nights. If you're going though nightmares with your livelihood, love-life or your community is in chaos, remember that we're in a cataclysmic change together. You don't have to do this alone. MenSpeak have held weekday lunchtime online MenCheck-in mini-men's groups since lockdown in March. They invite men to come hang out, check-in, be heard and get real together and train people to facilitate online men's groups and lift the lid on how men think, how to listen so men talk and how to speak so men engage - vital to take the edge off current pressures on men to provide for and protect their families without lashing out on others or suppressing and depressing themselves.
5. Give energy to what you want to grow. Which ways of society simply didn't work for you? What from the old ways will you not collude with any more? How do you wish people to be treated in your world? Feel into this and take that feeling into your daily life to create the environment you wish to live in. Give energy with what you want to grow, not with what you want to go. Create consciously with your thoughts, words and deeds.
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