What does self-esteem look like in kids?

May is National Teen Self-Esteem month. Self-esteem is an important contributing factor for a student's confidence at home as well as their overall academic success. It’s important for parents to be able to recognise what low self-esteem and confidence levels look like compared to kids that do have self-esteem and confidence. (see infographic).

"Developing positive self-esteem and confidence is important for all kid," says Frank Milner, President of national tutoring brand, Tutor Doctor. "In fact, children who feel good about themselves will often have more confidence to try new things, always do their best and are overall more successful in everyday life. Although every child is different, there are a few tips you can follow to help build your kids’ confidence and self-esteem."

1) Help foster a growth mindset

When helping your child build their confidence and self-esteem, it’s crucial to start by fostering a growth mindset. Kids with a growth mindset believe their abilities can improve overtime and are able to acknowledge their mistakes as learning opportunities. By helping your child reframe negative thoughts and statements they will soon start to learn that it’s okay to fail and there are solutions to mistakes. These positive shifts in your child’s mindset can help build self-esteem, resilience and confidence in their abilities and themselves.

2) Praise effort and encourage

Remember to praise and encourage your child regularly but do it wisely. Avoid focusing praise on results only (like getting a good grade) or fixed qualities (such as being athletic). This can sometimes be damaging to confidence levels as kids can start to think they have to perform well to receive praise. Instead, offer your encouragement and recognition for effort, progress, and attitude. For example: "You're working hard on that project," "You're getting better and better at these spelling tests," or, "I'm proud of you for practicing guitar.” With this kind of praise, children are likely to start putting effort into things, working toward goals, and trying their best. When kids do this, they're also more likely to become more confident in their abilities and build up their self-esteem levels.

3) Let kids help and give to others

Self-esteem grows when kids get to see that what they do matters to others. Kids can help out at home, give to charity, volunteer their time or simply do a favour for a sibling. Helping and kind acts build self-esteem and confidence in abundance!

4) Be a role model

Being a role model for your children is key. After all, you must love yourself before you can teach your child to love themselves. You can model this behaviour by rewarding and praising yourself when you do well. Whether you complete your first 5k run or get a promotion at work, make sure you celebrate your successes with your children. Talk to your kids about the skills and efforts needed for you to achieve those accomplishments, as well as acknowledging your weaknesses. It’s good for your child to hear you talk about how you value your own strengths and weak spots as this teaches them that no one is perfect.

5) Encourage interests

Finally, encourage your children to find new interests, explore, try an extracurricular activity or do something outside of their comfort zone. This not only helps kids discover their strengths but also helps a lot with building confidence, self-esteem and keeps their academic struggles in perspective. Right now, this might look like virtual tours and get togethers, new hobbies and independent calls with family members and schoolmates. All of which can help expand your child's horizons and build their ability to handle new situations and be confident in who they are as a person.


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About Tutor Doctor

Tutor Doctor is the fastest growing in-home tutoring franchise in the world. Business owners work with families to thoroughly asses a child’s needs and then carefully select the best-fit tutor based on goals, personality and learning style. Instead of the tired old centre-based model, tutors visit students at home or work via a state-of-the-art online learning platform so that students can learn in the comfort of their own home, at a time that suits them. For today’s busy families, this is a real benefit! The company was established in North America in 2000 and started its global expansion in 2003. It now has over 500 franchised offices in more than 14 countries and a network of 16,000 tutors. Operations in the UK began in 2009 and since then the company has experienced growth of 50% year on year and now has 80 franchise owners in the UK. The company is a proud member of both The Tutors Association and the British Franchise Association.


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