Five essential tips to navigate truth and lies, for a peaceful and loving lockdown
Lockdown has brought together long lost family and friends the world over. It has also reminded us why certain people were left behind as old issues resurface and confusion reigns.
"The Man Whisperer" Kenny Mammarella-D'Cruz has been holding weekday online men's groups since lockdown where men share whatever's up for them, enabling them to learn from one another's successes and failures as they navigate their relationships and keep the peace.
So here are five essential tools to turn potentially thorny relationships into a bed of roses that will guarantee love during lockdown.
1. The truth may be different for different people, depending on their life-experience, the lens through which they see the world, childhood environments, fears, needs, greeds and perspectives.
2. Compulsive liars walk amongst us. The habit is often fuelled by fear and past trauma. As soon as a compulsive liar's words are spoken, they believe them as true and their lies are defended, as they continue to survive life.
3. From our own perspectives, we are always right. So listen to others' perspectives and summarise what they've said so they know they've been heard. Then let them do the same for you before you sit together with raw information.
4. Telling the truth could get you in deep trouble. Not just by social and karmic consequences; but so many are bound by Non Disclosure Agreements, Official Secrets Acts and real, or perceived threats to self and loved ones.
5. The truth will set you free. Sometimes, speaking things out and having them heard can be a life-changer. Secrets make us sick and can become addictive preoccupations. So find your space to safely speak to an individual or a group from beyond your circles and attachments to outcomes.
"As always, the first place to look is inside. What is the truth of your life story? Do you know your own truth? Your values? Your purpose in life? Is it time to take action and bring your gifts into our challenging, changing world? More and more people have explored who they are, questioned their motives, changed their minds and their outdated habits of a lifetime during lockdown. When better to turn a new leaf and take part in life more consciously, compassionately and creatively?" asks Mammarella-D'Cruz, who has never been so busy than the past few months holding groups, seeing online clients and training men and women the world over to do the same. He's been holding men's groups for 20 years and offers a free QuickStart Guide for self-awareness and conscious communication from www.mensgroups.co.uk
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